Use tomb v2, update deps, fix hang on stale connection

- Use tomb v2 to properly spawn and reap goroutines (hopefully)
- Update deps
- Fix hang on stale connection due to improper goroutine management

vendor/golang.org/x/sys/unix/fcntl.go

@@ -2,8 +2,7 @@
 // Use of this source code is governed by a BSD-style
 // license that can be found in the LICENSE file.
 
-//go:build dragonfly || freebsd || linux || netbsd || openbsd
-// +build dragonfly freebsd linux netbsd openbsd
+//go:build dragonfly || freebsd || linux || netbsd
 
 package unix